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Firstly I will explain the situation.......
I have 7 bridesmaids, BF#1 has 6 groomsmen and 1 groomswoman.
My bridesmaids are J (my sister), Han (BF#1's sister), Tits (friend since I was 7, Zara's Mum), Tam (friend since high school, go camping every year etc), Sos (best friend), Tin (Sos's sister, basically a sister), LCA (very close friend, got our first tattoos together, etc).
I call all of them my "Best friends". They all call me their "best friend".
BF#1 and I do NOT want to have a strict traditional wedding! We want to do things OUR way, and this is why we decided to have a large bridal party!
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LCA seemed a bit funny about me having 7 bridesmaids from the start. I even had to justify that I couldn't chose between them, so I would prefer to have them all.
I shouldn't have to justify my choices.
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As soon as I told LCA the date of the engagement party, she said she couldn't stay long as she had work the next day and I accepted that. She left before 9pm. I accepted that.
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Today Tits and I were discussing Hens nights and I suggested maybe we go to Rosebud for the weekend. The boys are having a bucks weekend (3 nights!!!) why can't the girls do something similar. I understand that J and Han might not be able to come the whole time as they will be new Mummys :) but everyone else should have HEAPS of time to organise for the weekend off work etc, as it is 4 months away!
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Tits emailed LCA. LCA said she couldn't do a weekend away as she had already taken time off for the wedding.
This upset me.
LCA does rostered work - she could easily ask for that week to have her days off over the weekend - it's 4 MONTHS NOTICE.
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I emailed her, asking her if she could just ask for the weekend off that week. She replied
"I gather you have spoken to Tits. I have already had to take the wedding weekend off as annual leave. I cannot do a hens weekend away".
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I just sense she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid anymore. That she finds it all a bit of a "meh" rather than excitement. I emailed her and asked her if she even wants to be a bridesmaid. I haven't had a response yet.
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I must make this clear - I have asked nothing of my bridesmaids to date. I haven't dragged them around looking for the perfect white napkins. I haven't dragged them around looking for dresses for themselves, all I have done is gone with Tits dress shopping ONCE.
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I am trying to do everything in my power to make them comfortable on the day - Thongs for shoes - Pick their own dresses, hair, make up - No bridal party table, instead they can sit with their partners.....
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Have I got the right to be feeling upset about this?
WHY THE HELL DO I FEEL LIKE A BRIDEZILLA?
6 comments:
grrr! I know shes your close friend but come on! this is your wedding day! A once in a lifetime day. Surely she can show some enthusiasm!
People react funny with weddings. Some women feel put out because its like a reminder that they arent married yet. Others dont like someone else being the centre of attention. I had 4 bridesmaids. All but 1 I regret having because of the way they acted. It brought out the worst in them.
Youve got time before the wedding to reassess the situation. If shes not supporting you with a positive attitude then perhaps she needs to be shown the door?
i agree totally with green mama. anyone that was asked to be apart of ur special day should feel honoured.
u don't need people to be negative about ur special day. it only brings down ur happiness
Yeah don't worry about it :) She said she can't come, she can't come. She might be having money troubles at the moment and can't imagine herself missing anymore work.
Give her a guilt free out for the bridesmaid gig too, though that's tricky. how to phrase it. Something about friendship being more important than the wedding.
Trust me, I reckon it's better to be alone on your wedding day than have bitter bridesmaids around, I barely had a photo with a bridesmaid smiling in it, what a waste of money having the pictures taken. scowls all round ahaha.
Breathe Mate Breathe!
I agree with Jaime S, maybe something in her situation has changed that you don't know about.
Also some people are not good listeners & she may not be on the same page as you re what is expected of her & is obsessing over what she thinks you want from her than what you actually do want.
Luck!
Whoa! Yeah you are not being a bridezilla. Sounds to me like someone has their nose out of joint.
Can we have an update? Does she want to be bridesmaid?
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