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Firstly I will explain the situation.......
I have 7 bridesmaids, BF#1 has 6 groomsmen and 1 groomswoman.
My bridesmaids are J (my sister), Han (BF#1's sister), Tits (friend since I was 7, Zara's Mum), Tam (friend since high school, go camping every year etc), Sos (best friend), Tin (Sos's sister, basically a sister), LCA (very close friend, got our first tattoos together, etc).
I call all of them my "Best friends". They all call me their "best friend".
BF#1 and I do NOT want to have a strict traditional wedding! We want to do things OUR way, and this is why we decided to have a large bridal party!
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LCA seemed a bit funny about me having 7 bridesmaids from the start. I even had to justify that I couldn't chose between them, so I would prefer to have them all.
I shouldn't have to justify my choices.
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As soon as I told LCA the date of the engagement party, she said she couldn't stay long as she had work the next day and I accepted that. She left before 9pm. I accepted that.
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Today Tits and I were discussing Hens nights and I suggested maybe we go to Rosebud for the weekend. The boys are having a bucks weekend (3 nights!!!) why can't the girls do something similar. I understand that J and Han might not be able to come the whole time as they will be new Mummys :) but everyone else should have HEAPS of time to organise for the weekend off work etc, as it is 4 months away!
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Tits emailed LCA. LCA said she couldn't do a weekend away as she had already taken time off for the wedding.
This upset me.
LCA does rostered work - she could easily ask for that week to have her days off over the weekend - it's 4 MONTHS NOTICE.
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I emailed her, asking her if she could just ask for the weekend off that week. She replied
"I gather you have spoken to Tits. I have already had to take the wedding weekend off as annual leave. I cannot do a hens weekend away".
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I just sense she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid anymore. That she finds it all a bit of a "meh" rather than excitement. I emailed her and asked her if she even wants to be a bridesmaid. I haven't had a response yet.
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I must make this clear - I have asked nothing of my bridesmaids to date. I haven't dragged them around looking for the perfect white napkins. I haven't dragged them around looking for dresses for themselves, all I have done is gone with Tits dress shopping ONCE.
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I am trying to do everything in my power to make them comfortable on the day - Thongs for shoes - Pick their own dresses, hair, make up - No bridal party table, instead they can sit with their partners.....
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Have I got the right to be feeling upset about this?
WHY THE HELL DO I FEEL LIKE A BRIDEZILLA?
