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Tell me, what do you think of "ceremony only" invites?
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A few months ago I was on an American Wedding Forum and a girl asked this same question.
She was attacked
"It is so rude, why invite them at all! The whole wedding is about the reception/party"
"I would find it offensive to be only invited to the ceremony"
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Are we different in Australia? I think that Ceremony Only Invites are perfectly fine?
People understand how expensive receptions are nowadays, but would still feel privileged to come to the ceremony and have a part in your special day.
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I have created our Ceremony Only invites on Vistaprint.
These will be for close friends parents, my aunties and uncles (bah), and work people (we work in a 40 strong department - inviting 3 to the reception)
So tell me - What are your thoughts on "Ceremony Only Invites"
6 comments:
I think it is a common thing that is done these days. Maybe not over there but I have heard of a few people going to ceremony only ones here in Aus.
Go with what you feel is right, bugger everyone else but you and your fiance. It is your day!.
Ps. Have you joined i-do.com.au for advice and info?
I dont like them.
I can see both sides of the coin - you want everyone you care about to share in your special day, but you also have limited funds.
I must just say (and really don't want to offend at all - it's just food for thought!) that as someone who has received a ceremony-only invite before, it is upsetting. For me, the bottom line is that if you want these people to be at your ceremony, then you obviously care about them, and you need to consider what will happen post-wedding when they MAY feel awkward on account of not being invited to your reception also and for feeling like a second-class guest.
Best of luck with it all Nicky, I've been reading your blog(s) for a while as a fellow weight-watcher and really enjoy your posts!
I love ceremony only invites, as long as there is an explanation. If the invite only mentioned the ceremony I think it would be a good idea to then mention at the end or on an insert that you are keeping the reception close and intimate with immediate family/ close friends. Or dont mention it at all and if people ask, say look its a budget thing and the venue only has the capacity for X amount of people.
Personally, My favourite part of a wedding is the ceremony. I love sharing that moment with the people I love. I often will skip the reception all together. For ALot of people (not all) Its about pomp and ceremony, showing how much money you can spend and sitting with people you dont know.
The best reception I have been to was in the couples back yard. It was about love, not money and people that they HAD to invite. Thats how I tried to make mine.
I think ive rambled heaps sorry.
Ceremony only, Yes good, cool, thumbs up :o)
Coming from huge families (I'm 1 of 5 kids, he is 1 of 8 kids, my dad is 1 of 9 and his dad is one of 8 etc) we sent out ceremony only invites. We just included a note in small font on the bottom of them explaining that as we both came from large families we were limited in the number of guests we were able to have at the reception - but wanted them to know that if they wished to witness our ceremony then they were more then welcome. A few of them came along to watch. I've received 3 other 'ceremony only' invites (2 for friends of friends we knew but weren't really close to and 1 for someone I worked with) and went to all 3 ceremonies and was stoked to get to see them exchange vows :)
As everyone always says - when it comes to weddings - no matter what decision you make someone is likely to get upset so do what makes you happy :D
Kath
Technically if it's a church marriage it's a public event and any ol' person who wants to can come to it, invited or not. My friend's mum comes to the ceremonies of all her daughter's friend's weddings to stickybeak. I think it's lovely! I also think the 'ceremony only' invite is fine, but I'd make it casual and verbal. I did receive a written ceremony invite for a wedding. Reception was only close friends and family. Absolutely fine. I have no idea why people would get cranky about it! They included a written explanation, but had also made it clear before hand that most friends wouldn't be invited to the reception, so no hurt feelings when invites came out.
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